Feminine men have never started any group because they dominate every public aspect of what it means to be gay.
There’s a reason niche groups like bears exist. Masculine gays tend to look elsewhere to meet like minded men because we never seem to fit into that specific mold that urban gays love so much. In real life feminine behavior is practically pushed on all newly out gays like a drug and enforced by elder gays in pretty much every major city. I’ve seen so many people online whining that being feminine is picked on by gay men which is a total crock. I get stereotyped instantly, far more than a feminine man does, and I handle it.
I know all too well what it’s like to be “different” because I live in a country where my skin is considered different and I can’t turn it off so save the lectures. Just know the rest of the world doesn’t necessarily have to jump for joy and welcome you with open arms behind it. You pick it up because you want to and whatever challenges come with that you’re dealing with because you like the way you are and there’s nothing wrong with that. I thank him for that everyday.īehaving feminine is a choice.
He should me how to behave in a masculine way(and I refuse to be hyper masculine because neither extreme is appealing). My dad then did what a father was supposed to do which is pull me aside and teach me how to be a man to protect myself from that. I picked up their behaviors from being around them too much. I got that way because at the time I preferred being around females and felt awkward around other boys without knowing why. I say this as someone who was an effeminate little boy. If you can’t deal with backlash over stupid comments, keep your mouth shut.Ĭaptain CarlIsle: Nope it’s a bunch of bull. “It was a very upsetting time for me.” Boo hoo. He’s basically reinforcing the widely held belief that there is something wrong with a boy who is effeminate and it should be discouraged.
Russell’s comments may be seen as him just expressing his opinions to some but the wider ramifications cannot be ignored.
Over 60 years later, closeted gay actors are still doing the same. I remember reading how Rock Hudson once said he took voice lessons to make his voice deeper and said in an interview that he “trampled the little girl inside him” so that he could pass as straight in Hollywood for the sake of his career. The only gay men not being themselves are the gays who deliberately choose to act in a more masculine manner and there are many of those around. I’d also like to add for all those making the ludicrous comments about effeminate gay men choosing to be effeminate, ones core personality isn’t a choice in the same way that sexuality isn’t a choice, and whether you are feminine or masculine is part of your core personality.